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Man befriended the cat many centuries ago. Initially it was because they were skilled at hunting rodents but down the years the bond between humans and felines has become stronger. They make ideal pets because they are relatively low-maintenance.

“When I play with my cat, how do I know that she is not passing time with me rather than I with her?” – Montaigne

We have two cats, a pedigree Blue Persian called ‘Furby’ and a black and white moggy called ‘Gizmo’ I can’t remember when they first started sleeping on our bed at night but at times it can be a real pain.

In fairness Furby isn’t that much trouble but for a small cat even he takes up a lot of room when he stretches out and my wife refuses to move him an inch insisting that he gets a good nights sleep! (What about me?)

Furthermore, he is prone to snoring. Again the sound he makes is totally disproportionate to his size. If I snore my wife unceremoniously digs me in the ribs until I stop but if Furby snores she just coos and says how cute he is.

Gizmo, the moggy is far bigger and although he is a tad overweight he is a powerful cat and at night time he can be a real handful. As soon as we go to bed he will jump up and lie on my chest. I stroke him and he purrs incessantly.

The problems arise when I stop stroking him, he doesn’t like this and he will paw my face in order to make me start again. His pawing regularly draws  blood! but shouting at Gizzy has little effect, he doesn’t like being told off but still it doesn’t deter him.

“After scolding one’s cat one looks into its face and is seized by the ugly suspicion that it understood every word. And has filed it for future reference.”- Charlotte Gray

After being pushed onto the floor for lacerating my face he will wait a while and then try his luck again. Whenever I wake up his face is always less than six inches away from mine and as soon as he realises I’m awake he starts to purr.

If I get up during the night when I return he kindly vacates my place and goes and stands on the bedside table, he allows me to get back into bed and then comes and lies next to me again.

This may or may not sound cute and most of the time I don’t mind but sometimes it’s nice to have a bit of space.

we recently re furbished our bedroom and decided to invest in a king-sized bed. Problem solved we thought. No chance, we still seem to sleep with minimal space and the cats just have an even comfier nights sleep.

Yes we are barking/meowing mad and tired in the mornings.

“I have studied many philosophers and many cats. The wisdom of cats is infinitely superior.” – Hippolyte Taine



It’s the easiest thing in the world to get stuck in a rut, we’ve all done it. Practicing bad habits over a period of weeks, months and even years, then we wake up one day and think how did this happen to me? how did my life become like this? it’s not how I intended it to be, it’s not how I intended to be at all.

We all had fantastic dreams when we were kids, we wanted to be all manner of things; astronauts, football players, models, actors.

Then we hit adolescenece and we started to think differently, by this time we’d been sufficiently conditioned by society to think small, to be sensible and to accept our lot.

Why should we limit ourselves?

Why shouldn’t we think big and if we’ve done things we regret or not been a very nice person we CAN change it, we can set the record straight not just for other people but for ourselves.

Jim Rohn, the legendary personal development specialist once said “Work hard at your job and you will make a living, work hard on yourself and you will make a fortune”.

How true this is, even a little time spent working on ourselves will yield rewards, just admitting that we should strive to improve ourselves is a major acheivement.

I’ve always said that a total life transformation takes about five years but as soon as a person begins working on themselves they will see changes immediately and not just small ones either. But habits both good and bad are hard-wired into our brains so if we want to change them we have to be prepared to be persistent.

When we are looking for a starting point for how we can improve our lives the best place is with the concepts of COMPROMISE and EMPATHY.

If we can make ourselves just 10% easier to deal with both in our business and personal lives then our world’s will take on a much happier complexion. Once people realise that we are making more of an effort with them they will reciprocate it, often to a much greater degree.

We are by nature very impressionable so the company we keep is vital, we should strive to get good people around us – our own personal support group and avoid NEGATIVE people at all costs. Negative people are like parasites they feed off and sap other people’s energy.

Many famous people have turned their lives around so I recommend delving into occasionally to see how the did it.

There is good and bad in everyone, thus it is vital that we are not too harsh on ourselves and we make our personal development goals small and achievable.

We are our own masters, we are free thinkers, we can be whatever we want to be.


How to Get a Good Nights Sleep

“Sleep is when all the unsorted stuff comes flying out, as from a dustbin upset in a high wind.” – William Golding.

The true importance of most things is not how they are but how we perceive them. Therefor, if we fear sleep then it stands to reason that we will have trouble sleeping.

Sleep is our subconscious mind’s chance to sift through all the problems that our conscious mind (our ego) is incabable of dealing with – But sleep and the mind is a subject all on it’s own and one that I’m not going to dicuss here.

Most people think they require too much sleep. I have 6 hours sleep per night and never suffer from daytime fatigue. We do not need 8 hours plus, it’s a myth.

“Six hours for a man, seven hours for a woman and eight hours for a fool.” – English proverb.

If you view your time in bed as RESTING and not sleeping then it takes all the stress and pressure out of it, the body does not have to be completely comatose in order for it to acheive a good nights sleep, in fact we often feel far better in a morning when we have not been in a really deep sleep the previous night.

What do I do if I can’t switch off?

There are plenty of things we can do in order to TRICK our minds into thinking they are sleepy.

1. Slow/deep breathing: When we are agitated we tend to take short shallow breaths but when we are relaxed the opposite is true. so by mimicing the relaxed breathing process we will automatically start to feel more relaxed.

2. Suggestion: We yawn when we are tired in order to get more oxygen into our bodies, thus by repeating a suggestive word such as ‘YAWNING’, ‘RESTING’, ‘DEEPER’ etc. we automatically make ourselves feel more tired.

3. Self-hypnosis: Pretend you are in a lift in a building that has 20 floors, ‘decend’ these floors one by one whilst ‘looking’ at the lifts indicator panel. We appear to go ‘down’ into sleep and come ‘up’ out of it. Thus the ‘lift’ exercise is very relaxing.

4. Disorientation: Close your eyes and ‘look’ at each of your bedroom’s four corners in succession starting off slowly and then gradually speeding up. This disorientation will avert your mind from anything you might be worrying about

5. Muscle relaxation: Start at your right foot and concentrate on relaxing it, after a few seconds move onto your right leg, keep going round your body until you feel totally relaxed.

6. Time warping: Pretend it is ten minutes before you are due to get up when in reality you have much more time for sleep and rest, this will automatically make you feel more drowsy.

7. Stretching: Stetching our muscles even when we are in bed helps the body to relax.

Is my bedroom a place that encourages sleep?

The optimum temperature for sleep is 18c, normal room temperature is 24.5c so we tend to sleep better in a cool well ventilated room.

The darker a room is the better it is for sleep, good blinds and/or curtains are therefor essential.

We sleep much better in a quiet atmosphere, wear earmuffs if your house doesn’t have one.

The Cicadian Rythm:

This is another term for our body’s wake-sleep cycle. We are habitual creatures and our body’s just love routine.

Therefor we should try to go to bed and get up at the same time every day and adopt the same relaxing bedtime routines.

Avoid TV (which tends to be noisy and over stimulating to the eye) just before going to bed. Reading is far more relaxing.

Learn to look forward to bedtime, sleep is one of the great gifts of life so it is vital that we try to enjoy it.

“Nothing cures insomnia like the realisation that it’s time to get up.” – Unknown.

“People who say they sleep like a baby usually don’t have one.” – Leo J Burke.

Here are the notes I used to compile this blog post, you may find them useful:

touble at work
cant switch off
resting not sleeping
air circulation
self hypnosis
not too much sleep
cicadian rythm – wake/sleep cycle
keep room dark and cool
18 degrees
books as opposed to Tv
slow breathing
muscle relaxation