How to Motivate Your Children

Posted: March 17, 2010 in personal-development
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My name is Andy and I am a company director and personal-development specialist. I have read and studied well over 1,000 self-improvement books and been through the mill of life.

I have had a lot of ups and downs in my life, it has varied from great successes to spectacular failures. I have won many awards but conversely I have done a lot of things I regret.

The lifestyle I was living in my mid-twenties was dubious to say the least, I was a very aggressive, arrogant person but in moments of clarity I yearned to change. This desire led me into personal-development and 1,000 books and a lot of heartaches later I am now sat here, in my suburban home writing this article for you.


I am a big believer in people wanting to change their lifestyles. If I can give something back from my experiences then my efforts will be worthwhile. I am very much into giving kids a decent chance because many kids get dealt a pityful hand of cards in life but I realised long ago you can still win a game of poker with a poor hand, you just have to be more inventive that’s all.

I want to tell you a story about a young child that at seven years old was dismissed as being a failure, someone that needed special-needs trreatment.

This child was bottom of his class, he came 35th out of 35 children from a small town school in Northern England.

I do not think that the child was ‘backward’ in any way, okay comming bottom of the class is no big acheivement but maybe trying to label a kid who was at worst a slow learner as special-needs was a bit harsh, even back then

The headmistress of the school insisted that the very least the child ‘deserved’ was to be put back a year. I have no doubt she would have got her way if it had not been for the intervention of the child’s mother and grandmother. They fought the case tooth and nail and the child duly graduated to the higher year with the rest of his classmates.

Apparantly the headmistress had taught both the mother and grandmother previously and there was a lot of history between them. Unfortunately, she died the following year of a massive stroke and therefor she took her unresolved issues to the grave with her.

You have probably guessed by now that the child in the story was me and I am certain that if I had not had massive support back then I would not be writing for you right now.

The support I received back then galvanized me so much so that it transformed my life.

Within just six months I was up to 14th in the class and within three years I had made it to 4th. I won a grammar school scholarship and ended up finishing 1st there, three years running.

What is the lesson we can all learn from this story?

I think it is this:


What I am about to quote now is on my homepage and it will be there as long as I live.

“Praise your children’s efforts not their ability. Praising their effort will encourage them to work even harder. Praising their ability will make them develop a fear of failure.”

Finally, if you want to really motivate your children do the following three things:

1. Give them proper boundaries, kids love boundaries. Contrary to belief they do not like being able to run riot.

2. The main theme of this article, support them in public.

3. Make time to listen to them and their own personal trials and tribulations.

Regards, Andy.

Personal-Development Made Easy.

  1. Brandy says:

    You are really an amazing woman and this article is very wonderful. I was inspired by your personal story and i hope lots of parents will be inspired. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  2. Brandy says:

    oh sorry… my bad I have a friend named Andy and she’s a woman.. sorry

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